My Unconditional Valentine

My “Happy Valentine’s Day” Message to my Family, Friends and Followers:

The Enduring and Unconditional Love that defines a true friendship is a precious and rare gift, a blessing beyond compare. Romantic feelings come and go, along with their associated attachments; they are an all-inclusive packaged deal accessorized with costly baggage and personal drama that accumulates exponentially with experience and time. LOVE – REAL LOVE – is pure, unconditonal, transformative, expansive, self-sustaining. A vibration of the highest frequency, LOVE connects us to one another, as well as to the Universal Source; LOVE raises our vibrational frequency to a level of pure consciousness, revealing our core essence and potential as divine beings, creating miracles, transforming possibilities into manifest realities, dissolving negativity and transcending limitation.
So on this day dedicated to the Art of Love, know that you are loved! I LOVE YOU!!!
Thank you for being in my life <3

© Lisa Pearlman

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True Love (Innocence Lost?) (revised 2/18/13)

I am awe-struck by Bob Marley’s idealistic words that follow, expressing his feelings on true love…I embrace his vision and echo his romantic sentiment completely. Unfortunately my past judgement was faulty and what I believed to be true love with my “soul mate” turned out to be a figment of my imagination…remnants of a shattered dream, an all-encompassing, strategically constructed illusion borne from a naiively naked heart. My vulnerable, unsuspecting, foolish heart was brutally victimized by a hungry wolf; I was mesmerized, captivated by a poseur draped in sheepskin. If it seems too good to be true, stay vigilant and hold on tightly to your innocence, to your precious heart; for when the planets are aligned, the soulmate will appear, and all that is you, and all that you are, will be revealed.
In the meantime, be the change you wish to see, live and teach by example of kindness and compassion; Love everyone, but trust only in yourself, as you eternally bask in the warm glow of spiritual self-love.

© Lisa Pearlman

Ideally, “only once in your life” will you experience true love, as described in the revealing words of Bob Marley:

“Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.” ~ BOB MARLEY

ONE LOVE!

Design by Cedella Marley

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On Letting Go…

Some valuable advice for anyone having a tough time letting go and moving on from a past relationship: Greatness awaits you…set yourself free so you may recognize and receive the miracles and opportunities that present to you. Love yourself and keep “Doing You!” I can honestly say that after years of being stuck in a self-sustaining cyclical web of codependency, dysfunctional relationships and maladaptive behavior patterns, ” I’m Doing Me” these days – better late than never! And it is never too late to become what you might have been or do what you could have done. Each day is a fresh start, a new beginning, another chance to get it right! Embrace change – it is the only constant in life – so welcome change like it is your best friend! RBecause “this too shall pass,” as sure as the day passes into night. Life is a series of moments, each one ephemeral and unique, each one transitioning into the next, forming a seemingly effortless ebb and flow of constantly changing stimuli…so accept each moment as it is NOW, be present for it or you might miss it while you are busy thinking about what was or what will be. The past has come and gone, the future may never manifest… So Be Here NOW.. .it is all that matters anyway ♥

© Lisa Pearlman 2/16/13

© Photo by Lisa Pearlman (shot with iphone 4S cam, edited on iphone 4S)

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A Legacy of Choice

Live each day like it’s your last…it just might be! Your lifetime of choices become your legacy, regardless of the amount of material or length of time you amass during your temporary human experience.

Be authentic in all your actions and interactions…Follow your heart but do so mindfully…Choose Compassion over Apathy…Be Kind to yourself and others…Love Unconditionally…Be Fully Present for all of Life’s experiences, accepting all without attaching meaning or preference to any one in particular – Life is a series of sequential moments, each one unique and fleeting; as one passes, another silently follows…
Above all else, Always DO YOU! Make Choices that enable your experience of Manifest Happiness and lessen your experience of Suffering. YOU are the only one who can choose and control your Thoughts, Attitudes, Feelings and Actions. YOU are the Reality Architect – YOU create your personal Reality!

If you choose wisely and live your life authentically…mindfully…humbly, then there will never be a reason for regret. Do not postpone matters of the heart -they are of the utmost importance…do not leave positive sentiment or loving words unsaid, as you may not get another chance to convey them…do not express negative, hurtful sentiment or criticism as you may never get a chance to apologize…Words wield power…they can never be retracted once uttered…they linger in the mind and heart like a moldy scent…their effects echo for eternity, a repetitive loop of cutting edge sound replayed in one’s memory like a broken record.

It’s ultimately your choice…why not start creating a legacy of Love today?

© Lisa Pearlman 1/21/13

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Got Empathy?

Instead of judging people while doing nothing to contribute in a positive way to our community and our planet, we can take responsibility, as a world citizen of planet Earth and a member of our community, to alleviate suffering of our fellow man/woman/animal in some way. We can advocate for justice or humane treatment, donate our time or money to human service work, vote in elections, offer a kind word or a sympathetic ear to the depressed and downtrodden…the options are infinite in number and varied in kind, but making negative judgments of others is clearly not among these constructive efforts! It’s called Empathy folks…if you don’t got it, then get it! Put yourself in the shoes of the other person, walk a virtual mile in their shoes, before passing judgment of any kind. In fact, don’t judge…it serves no purpose whatsoever. It is actually harmful and destructive to humanity as a collective conscious entity and disruptive to our divine harmony with Universe and Source/God. Think about it…
Love & Light to you all <3 … Namasté … <3 Lisa <3

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Affirmation: I NOTICE THE LIGHT IN EVERYONE

My dear friends,

I just wrote a daily affirmation for myself. Feel free to use it in your daily practice if it appeals to you!
Love & Light to all … Namasté … Lisa

Affirmation: I NOTICE THE LIGHT IN EVERYONE

How many of us are quick to criticize or find fault with ourselves or with others? How many of us notice weakness before we notice strength? Perhaps, you are already attuned to the innate goodness in some people… How about making it a habit to see the light that shines within our enemies, as well as within people we admire or like?
We all need to feel we matter and are appreciated (that is human nature as well as being innate in certain species of animal) and when we show our appreciation of and to others, it is often reciprocated. This is a good daily practice because we tend to get caught up in our expectations for ourselves and others, noticing and pointing out our own or others’ failings or weaknesses instead of focusing on the positive qualities or strengths. Everyone does something well and has some positive qualities. Approval and positive feedback motivate people to repeat those positive behaviors, much more than disapproval and negative feedback deter negative behavior. If we think about how good it feels to be complimented, maybe we can set a daily goal of giving a compliment to each person we encounter. Even people who we see as negative… surely you can find one positive thing in even the most frustrating of people. God certainly would! Remember we were all created by God, and in God’s image. Surely that counts for something!

Namasté

c. Lisa Pearlman 5/8/12

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What Do We Desire

What Do We Desire?

I believe within our human nature there are certain innate desires universal to all human beings on our planet, regardless of culture, race, ethnicity, economic class or religion. We all desire to feel happiness through connection to another human being, to feel we belong, we are loved, we matter to someone. We desire to be free from pain and suffering, or to at least lessen the perception/feeling of suffering when pain is present. Lastly, I believe we inherently desire some sort of spiritual (not necessarily religious) connection, whether this desire be conscious or unconscious. In our pursuit of this higher consciousness, we seek to connect with our inner being, or higher power, that transcends all physical and mental realms, that embodies all that is, was and ever will be. An all-knowing intangible entity that connects us all to ourselves, each other, our non-self/higher power/God and the Universe. That which embodies our ultimate purpose in this life and beyond, that embodies the Yin and Yang, the Alpha and Omega, the totality.

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Scared Shy

Shyness is an awkwardness inside, that stems from our lack of confidence or our self-doubts… basically our paralyzing fears, which hold us back from life in so many ways.  The good news is WE CAN OVERCOME OUR FEARS!  We can change our perceptions, and in turn, our reality, with mindful practice, self-awareness, self-affirmations, and consciously thinking through our fears so we realize they are either irrational or, if they are rational, they are certainly not as catastrophic as we imagine them to be.  We need to take social risks in order to fully participate in life and embrace its beauty.  When all is said and done, the worst that can happen is we start back at “square one” again, no worse than before, but possibly better!!

© Lisa Pearlman 1/3/12

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Stop Lying, Stop Fronting, Keep it Real

It is stressful, overwhelming and time-consuming to maintain a falsehood.  As the deceiver creates an ever-growing elaborate web of lies to support his prior dishonesty or betrayal, he must keep track of all details, dates, places and names so that he is consistent in his story.  He often must backtrack to recount events, taking care to sync all his fabrications so that they corroborate and coincide together like jigsaw pieces to an intricate puzzle.  If one odd piece of information does not quite fit, the integrity of the entire charade is at stake.  To ensure a steady stream of data that flows smoothly in one direction, he must constantly check his words and actions, remember seemingly trivial matter-of-fact statements he has made in the past, and fill in gaps as his web of lies grows larger.  He buries himself deeper and deeper with every word he utters.  Eventually he will slip up, perhaps fail to cover his tracks, or maybe spout a verifiable “fact” that can be disproved through research, thereby exposing a weakness or inconsistency in his story.  As his carefully crafted web of lies unravels, he frantically makes excuses, changes details, throws accusations, places blame…anything to avoid telling the truth.  He desperately back-pedals in hopes of plugging up holes, a futile attempt at damage control.  Finally confronted with his lies which have been exposed, he can breathe a sigh of relief, let it go, relax and start over fresh.  Any sane man would. Or he can deny the truth and evidence before him, and stubbornly stay on his sinking boat and go down with the ship, claiming a victory that he alone believes in.  Such is par for the course for the pathetic case of a Pathological Liar. ~
© Lisa Pearlman 1/3/12

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Love in Vain

Time heals all wounds, albeit slowly, and never quite completely. But all we can do is pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off, and keep it moving. Whatever pain we feel is proportionate to the lesson learned. And if the lesson was not learned, you can be sure the experience, and it’s accompanying pain will be yours again. Forgive so you may learn, and learn so that you may forgive. Your Resentments and Grudges will destroy YOU from the inside out…while the one you can’t forgive or forget, has moved on, like teflon, all the pain and anger you directed at him (or her) slid right off and ricocheted back to you. Let it go…so you can break the cycle and embrace a new day. Remember, tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. Love may bring pain, but never is Love in vain.

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